25-Year Veteran Psychologist Partners with Greenfield School parents to unlock children’s hearts and self-discipline

In a child’s journey toward adulthood, self-discipline acts as the "wings" that allow them to soar academically and remain resilient against life's challenges. However, fostering this trait presents unique hurdles at every stage of development—from establishing routines for young learners to respecting the burgeoning autonomy of older students.

As the Head of the Department of Education and Human Development at the University of Education (Vietnam National University, Hanoi), Dr. Tinh emphasized that effective parenting starts with understanding age-specific psychological shifts.

• Primary School: Children are easily inspired but equally distracted. Dr. Tinh advised that learning must be vivid and visual, supported by even the smallest gestures of parental encouragement.

• Secondary & High School: Students often experience irritability and a fierce desire for "status" and self-assertion. At this stage, Dr. Tinh noted, "Instead of over-intervening, parents must respect their children's boundaries and awaken their internal drive."

Dr. Tinh warned that overprotection and "misguided love" can foster an "eggshell mentality," leading to a dependent generation. To build true self-discipline, he suggested practical integration into daily life: involving children in housework, teaching self-care, and encouraging a sense of responsibility toward the family.

Highlighting the blueprint for success, Dr. Tinh remarked: "Success is determined 80% by Emotional Intelligence (EQ) and only 20% by IQ. Parents hold the power to influence how children learn to self-regulate behavior". He introduced the "3 No's" rule for disciplined parenting: No prior satisfaction, No instant satisfaction and No excessive satisfaction.

Addressing the root of domestic conflict, Dr. Tinh observed that friction often arises when a child’s path diverges from parental expectations. The solution, he argued, lies in narrowing that gap through empathy. "Parenting based on respect and empathy is the foundation for shaping a child’s character and intrinsic value," he stated.

The seminar also provided tactical advice on managing "tech addiction" and introduced the "Time-Out" method as a form of positive discipline. Rather than a punishment, a "Time-Out" serves as a cooling-off period for both parties to regain emotional balance before re-engaging in dialogue.

Closing the 120-minute session, Dr. Tinh left parents with a poignant reflection: "What triggers human change?" "From childhood to adulthood, praise and encouragement are the core elements that inspire change from within. Listen to understand your child," he concluded.

The impact was felt immediately by attendees. Ms. Ngo Thi Thanh Ha, a parent at the school, shared: "As a mother, I’ve struggled with managing my child’s device usage. This seminar provided immense value—not just theories, but ways to truly connect and listen. I look forward to more sessions like this to refine how I raise and educate my children."

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